Spiritual Director &

Relationship Coach

Work with Me

West Side
Bend, Oregon 97703

Grounded masculine perspective

& results for relationships.

What’s missing from most relationships is conscious masculinity. Without the awakened masculine, the man-and-woman relationship can’t flourish. I can help you wake up.

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Long-term relationships are challenging.

You’ve been to therapy. You’ve put in real effort. Standing at a crossroads—maybe at the end of your rope—after years of struggling, you’re ready for a fulfilling, life-giving relationship, or else. So what’s the secret?

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A Conscious Relationship

My wife and I have really been through it. Trust me when I tell you, we understand your difficulty better than most. And yet here we are, 25 years and 4 kids later, committed to each other with a divine depth, having stood together through the most gut wrenching challenges life has to offer, knowing at the end of the day that we have a faithful, devoted partner in our corner who knows us better than anyone else in the world (and still chooses to stick around!).

What I’ve learned as a family man who was a pastor in a former life—before I became a go-hard entrepreneur and a mystic—is just how powerful the unconscious parts of us really are. Men living in ignorance of their own emotions and unconscious patterning cannot provide the secure and loving container in which a woman can most fully embody her feminine. The trust and safety necessary for sustained romantic, relational, and sexual intimacies to flourish cannot take root.

So how do we fix it?

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Shadow Work

This is the missing link for the vast majority of my clients, women and men alike. What is it?

Through a combination of focused journaling, emotional processing, visualizations, and somatics, we’ll uncover the unconscious programming in you that keeps you in the same patterns of behavior and thought, which will revolutionize your lived experience.

It’s like magic, but really… it’s just psychology.
(Jungian depth psychology, to be exact.)

  • "What a gift to know there are conscious, responsible men in the world. Jake is such an example of purity, humility, truth, and emotional intelligence, it's impossible not to love him. He has found his divine path. Of that I am certain."

    —Antonia | Illinois

  • "Jake stands in his archetypes of father, warrior, and spirit so powerfully, he's inspired me to devote myself to my own. His devotion to his wife, his children, and his path have deeply impacted me, and inspired me to more fully embody my own truth."

    —Zoe | Texas

  • "You think magic's not real? Then you haven't worked with Jake. I can't believe how much has shifted in my life—abundance in so many forms, synchronicities everywhere—since working with him."

    —Chad | N. Carolina

  • "Wisdom coupled with authenticity. You just get the feeling that Jake has been through what you’re going through and come out the other side. Like he’s not lecturing or just giving you a solution, but that’s he sees elements of himself in your situation and he’s working on it *with* you."

    —Jackson | Georgia

Women:

hear me out.

I obviously work with men, but if you are a woman reading this and you’re yearning for a conscious relationship, please know I work with women all the time. As a matter of fact, I’ve found that the sensitivity you have and the initiative it takes for you to reach out is a powerful gateway for healing to start in your relationship.

We won’t triangulate or “form a case” against your partner. We’ll start by helping you to reframe your approach in your relationship, which will create marked improvements, and which will likely lead to coaching for the pair of you.

Let the work begin.

1:1 Identity & Relationship Coaching Sessions

Online and via Bend, Oregon Local appointments.

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